1403: Chelsea and Nick Homer – Finding Community Outside of Mormonism
March 4, 2021
Chelsea and Nick Homer were both raised as devout Utah Mormons – with all the good and bad this entailed, and both were equally determined to have the perfect Mormon marriage and family. After meeting at BYU and an extended, careful courtship, Chelsea and Nick were married in the Bountiful temple. Then their Mormon dream immediately began to fray.
Beginning with the wedding night/honeymoon, Chelsea and Nick experienced problems with sexual intimacy, due (in large part) to unhealthy messages they received around sexual “purity” and “modesty” as Mormon teens. Then, a year into their marriage, Nick began to lose his testimony in the Mormon church – causing Nick and Chelsea to seriously contemplate divorce.
When it became clear that Nick was not going to perform the priesthood blessing for their their firstborn child, Chelsea and Nick decided to courageously post about their situation on her Instagram account, in part to defy the shaming and unhealthy rumors that so often accompany this situation within Mormonism (e.g., “Nick must be into PORN!”). This post was dated September 24, 2017.
After these social media posts, Chelsea and Nick immediately began receiving messages, emails, and phone calls from other young Mormon couples also experiencing faith crises and/or mixed-faith marriages. To help provide support and community for all the young Mormon women who were struggling with faith crises, Chelsea formed on July 31, 2019 a Facebook group entitled “Faith Journey Meetups,” which at present has over 2,000 members. The description of this group is as follows: “Welcome! This is a meetup hub for women who are actively navigating their personal faith journeys. Come, make friends, schedule get-togethers. This is a safe place to find support and turn internet acquaintances into real life friends.”
Eventually, Chelsea also lost her faith in the Mormon church, and today Nick and Chelsea are navigating a life of healing, growth, and joy after Mormonism.