In these episodes of Mormon Stories, John and Margi have a discussion with Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST about forming a foundation for marriage that withstands change.  They also discuss guiding principles to maintaining successful relationships.

In Part 1, John, Margi and Natasha discuss:

  • Differentiation: the constant tension between “me” and “we” in marriage
  • Respect/friendship in a relationship
  • The Protection Model vs the Intimacy Model
  • Avoiding power differentials in a relationship
  • Challenging the rhetoric of “co-dependence”

In Part 2, John, Margi, and Natasha discuss:

  • Creating positive communication and protecting marriage when believing family tries to place blame on a spouse
  • Belonging to yourself and choosing to share in significant ways as the best method to building intimacy
  • Common relationship myths
  • Vulnerability within relationships
  • How self-discovery and relationship renovation enhances relationships

 

Part 1 (5/2/2017):

Part 2 (5/9/2017):

 

Part 1:

Part 2:

Notes:

The Seven Principles for making marriage work:
https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_img_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=CC8XZ25YA1P0X7904JTX

Values worksheets:
https://psychologytools.com/values-free-en-us.pdf
https://osp-cp.uchicago.edu/sites/osp-cp.uchicago.edu/files/i/Values%20Inventory%20Worksheet.pdf
https://psychologytools.com/values.html

Natasha Parker
https://www.symmetrysols.com/

Mormon Mental Health Association
https://www.mormonmentalhealthassoc.org/mmha-clinical-providers

Circumplex Model
https://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http%3A%2F%2Fhealingreligion.com%2FPS1012%2Fimages%2Fcircumplexmap.jpg&imgrefurl=http%3A%2F%2Fhealingreligion.com%2FPS1012%2Fhtml%2Fcircumplex_model.htm&docid=dwW5KB1kHtPMmM&tbnid=VDea5fYSTgB3wM%3A&vet=1&w=724&h=621&source=sh%2Fx%2Fim

Values Resource
https://kairios.com/

Act Mindfully
https://www.actmindfully.com.au/free_resources

One Comment

  1. Diana May 28, 2017 at 4:44 pm - Reply

    This was so well done! Thank you to John, Margi, and Natasha for your advice and wisdom. I have been married for 15 years, and since I lost my faith in the LDS church my relationship with my believing husband has suffered, at times incurring seemingly irreparable damage. This podcast has given me so much to not only think about, but also tools to better our communication. Thank you so much to all of you! You really are making a difference in the lives of so many.

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